Friday 24 May 2013

Fascination Leads to destruction true story 2013

The sun was setting and the clouds were hovering on the sky. I was standing in the balcony when suddenly a strong wind blew and took me into that gathering which I attended a fortnight ago about a few years ago
. There I met my cousin with whom I fell in love before marriage. We met for the first time in a party where we stared each other unintentionally for a long time. After that we were from head to tail in love. Weeks turned into months and then years. We planned a cheering future together but never knew that it was nothing but a nightmare. We have not dated ever but family gatherings, social media and cell phone was the source of communication between us. And after I had completed graduation, one day my parents told me that they are going to get me married. I was stupefied and went into a deep shock. I felt my whole life was ended at that moment. I stumbled and went into my room somehow. I called and told him that everything is over. I wept and he consoled. My head was pounding harder and my whole world was crushed under a single decision took by my parents. Our plans were smashed and we felt helpless because the change in the decision of my parents seemed impossible. I had to obey because there was no such defect in that person which my parents choose for me. Yes, we were apart despite all our efforts and planning. I was sleepless for weeks. That pain in my heart was immeasurable and inexpressible. I don’t know much about him because of the marriage was near and I had to sit in the gatherings of my friends and family. I just remember we were both grieved but I had to surrender and I did. I lost the love, I love the most. On my marriage ceremony he was there, sitting alone in the corner. He had an eye contact twice but what I felt at the moment can’t be expressed in words because some feelings can only be felt. Such situations in your life either make you or break you but I was blessed and lucky that it made me. This incident had changed the course of my life and taught me much. Time has healed everything and I realized that nothing lasts forever. A fortnight back in that gathering we met again. He was married and happy in his life and so, I am. Remember no one dies without anyone. These are just verbal dialogues.

The root cause of my story is in front of you. Now let me confess my mistakes. Firstly, I used to watch a serial in days when I was in relation which almost matched my story. I used to feel that we shall also get out of the hardships as they did in the serial. But later I realized that this is just a fantasy and should be treated as such. Do watch serials, movies etc but make sure that you are prudent enough to take lessons out of it rather than just enjoying them. Secondly, social media and telephone networks had played their role fully in ruining my life but I was at mistake. Thirdly, I used to listen songs after we broke up which diffused my soul and pulled me into the bleakness. And lastly but the foremost of all was that I lost self-control. Implant the fact that first of all the vision (eye) sways, then the heart strays and the result of which is known to all of you. All of that started with just a single sight which wrecked my life later. I repented on all my mistakes and I regret I would have a strong grip on my conscience because when you treat it with leniency it takes no time to lead you towards devilish paths. I seek for forgiveness.


Friends! This worldly love is nothing more than a time pass and some transitory feelings and that’s all!!! If you really love a person and want those as your spouse then don’t indulge into “Haram relations” today and hoping that they would turn into “Halal” ones tomorrow. Ask your parents to allow you to marry him/her because without having a Halal relation how can you be so blunt to break the sacred limits set by Allah mighty?
If you have ever been through such a situation then ask for forgiveness because He is always ready to forgive you and shower his blessings upon you. Doing sins today and hoping that you will ask for forgiveness is itself a sin which is unforgiveable. Be realistic in life because your life is not a tableau to entertain others and inculcate this in your mind that there is no market where you can advertise your sorrows. People may enjoy or some may betray you but at the end He is yours. Turn towards Him before its late and you would not be able to say a single word.
Allah Almighty says,
Come and walk on my path, I shall make the rest of worlds yours.
So which deal is better, you have to decide. There may be fun in doing sins but there is no peace in it. Your heart should be that much pure that if the world would see your thoughts and intentions of heart then you don’t have to be shameful in front of anyone. We should try and try because a little good deed is always better than doing nothing and sometimes such intentions becomes the source of your forgiveness by Allah mighty.
Scrutinize your life and see where you are standing? Indulging into haram relations today and hoping that they would turn into halal ones tomorrow. Who promised you tomorrow???

Thursday 9 May 2013

25 blogging best practice 2013


Blogging began in 1998 as a form of online journal — a frequently updated site in reverse chronological order to discuss whatever was on the author's mind. Blogs, short for “weblogs,” have exploded since those early days.
Focused on every imaginable topic, these sites are run by individuals and groups all over the world. As they have grown in popularity and readership, more and more people are turning to current events-centered blogs for daily news updates. A handful of powerful blogs now have daily readership exceeding that of many newspapers.
Most blog readers scan dozens of blogs everyday, but they actually spend very little time on any one blog—thus your goal is to grab them quickly and hold them. Readers have only a handful of blogs that they read carefully. You want to be one of them.
There are three basic keys to building a successful blog:
  • Engage with other blogs and your own readers
  • Keep the material fresh and exciting
  • Give people a reason to return
Here are some things to keep in mind when blogging:
It's OK to say what you think. Bloggers tend to have opinions; otherwise most of them wouldn't have blogs. Blog readers want to hear opinions; otherwise most wouldn't read blogs. It's OK to ease up on the journalistic “objectivity” and say what you really think. In fact, it's preferred.
Engage from the beginning. Blog readers generally pay attention to the title and the first two paragraphs of any given post, and then decide whether to read the rest. This means your title, and your first two paragraphs are your chance to entice them to read the rest of the post. Humorous, playful, and even whimsical titles are OK because they catch readers' attention. Sometimes, if it concerns a particularly hot news item, a straightforward title will do the same. Posts with compelling titles get read more often, and get more comments.
In the first two paragraphs, try to give the reader an idea of what you're talking about, what you think about the subject, and — towards the end of the second paragraph — a teaser to get them to read more.
Be casual. Most blog readers don't generally respond to a formal, authoritative tone. They want to know that they're talking to a human being much like themselves, who happens to know a bit more about the subject than they do, or who shares their views on the subject. Try to write in a tone that's natural, casual, and almost conversational. Imagine that you're writing for a guy who's sitting in his cubicle during his lunch break, or in his pajamas before bedtime, looking for engaging conversation online.
Remember, it's a conversation. Keep the discussion open. You don't have to be a closer; meaning you don't have to tie up all the loose ends and answer all questions by the end of a blog post. In fact, it's better to leave some questions asked and unanswered. If the first few paragraphs of a post are the open door inviting readers into the post, the last couple of paragraphs are the open door inviting them into the conversation.
Never forget, it's personal. People don't just read a blog; they respond to it by leaving comments or linking to it from another site. People also inherently connect not just to the blog but also to the author. Blogs live, breathe, and die based on the level of involvement with their readers and other blogs. Personality is key in this kind of engagement. Developing a voice and persona for your blog is important, but should come naturally.
Link or trackback to other blogs whenever possible. There are some important reason for this. First, it builds community across blogs, and expands the conversation. Second, it gets bloggers' attention. Linking is what creates the blogosphere. Bloggers link to blogs they like and blog posts they like and want to comment on. Bloggers also check their site statistics for referrer links, to find out who's linking to them. They tend to check out sites that link to their blogs or their posts, read them, and link back to them if they like them.
Trackbacks are another way of linking to a blog. Instead of commenting on a blog post you can post your comment on your own blog, and trackback to the initial post. This creates a link on the initial post, so when people read that post, they see that you commented on it and it increases the likelihood that they will click on the link to read your post. And if they like it, they might explore the rest of your blog and come back to read it again.
Read other blogs, and write about what you read. Keep a list of blogs, however short or long, and read them on a regular basis. This will give you an idea what people are talking about in the blogosphere, and bring your blog into the conversation. If you want to comment on something use your blog web address to direct people back to your blog. If you want to write about and/or trackback to another post, link to the initial post in what you write.
Turn-around matters.Things move fast in the blogosphere. A story might catch on with a few blogs, and spread like wildfire to the rest. If you take more than 24 hours to have your say, you might miss an opportunity to attract links, trackbacks, and new readers. Whenever possible, if you want to write about a hot news story that's all over the blogosphere, turn it around by the next day at the latest. And don't forget to link and trackback to other blog posts whenever possible.
It doesn't have to be perfect. One of the great things about the blogosphere is that you don't have to be right all the time. Most bloggers understand the desire to run with a story as soon as you get it. There's something to be said for being first, but sometimes that means risking being wrong if further information is revealed later. In that situation, it's standard to post a brief update. Bloggers understand that, and will forgive you for being wrong as long as you're up front about it.
Use syndicating technologies. XML and RSS feeds are a technical ways of syndicating your blog to other blogs, a sort of personal AP Wire for your campaign. It is a standard feature of most blogs, but make sure your blog has it enabled, either through RSS (Really Simple Syndication) or Atom
Click your own links. When you post an article that links to other post or blogs, be sure to click those links after you post. First, this simply verifies that your links work, which is always a good QA check. Second, this will cause your site to show up in the stats and referrer logs of the sites you link to. Most bloggers track their traffic and referrers religiously, so this will make sure they are aware of your post as soon as it's been published.
Don't be afraid to promote. I've written a number of posts that I thought would be of interest to other bloggers or sites, such as Robert Scoble, MacSurfer, and Hacking Netflix. My first hope was that the writing would be so captivating that the posts would slowly rise to the top of the blogosphere and be noticed. Not a good plan!
My second hope was that by linking to these sites and clicking on those links, my site would show up in the referrer logs for those sites, which would spark curiosity and bring my post to their attention. This works fairly well, but relies on the site owners and authors religiously monitoring their traffic or subscribing to weblog search sites such as PubSub and Feedster. Better, but still inadequate.
Finally, I stumbled upon a brilliant, but underused technique: Tell them about it!. People who are active in the weblog world are active precisely because they are curious people who are always looking for new perspectives. I find that sending a short, polite email that introduces yourself, offers a thank you or general kindness regarding their site, and then brings your post to their attention, is generally very successful. I never specifically ask for a link and wouldn't recommend it. Your purpose is simply to be read by people you respect and if you achieve that, you have been successful. The choice of whether to link to your site is entirely up to them.